good morning, all!
Mar. 18th, 2010 11:23 am![[personal profile]](http://s.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
greenLike I said last night, I added a lot of people to my flist on LJ. I don't know why, exactly, just that I was feeling lonely and wanted to surround myself with people and have more content to read. Also, I like making new friends. :)
I am thinking a lot about writing a ficlovesongwriter suggested, Mikey/Frank with arranged marriage and pining and misunderstandings and werewolves. I hope my writing mojo sticks around after my boys leave -- I doubt I will have much time to write while they are here.
I have to go to the store today, which I always hate. But I need to stock up for my boys' visit. It's always good to feed your children. :)
I feel like I should mention the Iero twins. Because that is what one does! I am ecstatic that Frank and Jamia are having babies! My face has been like this :DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD since it was announced. BABIES! Babies are fabulous.
I think I want to do more comment fic today. So if you have a prompt for me, leave it here and I will do what I can. Fandoms: Harry Potter, SGA, due South, MCR, BtVS, Star Trek (2009).
Oh, and I now have 17 or so stories up at AO3. Here! I have been surprised at getting comments for fics I upload there. I wasn't expecting that! But it is awesome and I'm so happy. I love getting feedback, even for old stories I wrote, what, seven years ago? AWESOME.
I am thinking a lot about writing a fic
lovesongwriter suggested, Mikey/Frank with arranged marriage and pining and misunderstandings and werewolves. I hope my writing mojo sticks around after my boys leave -- I doubt I will have much time to write while they are here.I have to go to the store today, which I always hate. But I need to stock up for my boys' visit. It's always good to feed your children. :)
I feel like I should mention the Iero twins. Because that is what one does! I am ecstatic that Frank and Jamia are having babies! My face has been like this :DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD since it was announced. BABIES! Babies are fabulous.
I think I want to do more comment fic today. So if you have a prompt for me, leave it here and I will do what I can. Fandoms: Harry Potter, SGA, due South, MCR, BtVS, Star Trek (2009).
Oh, and I now have 17 or so stories up at AO3. Here! I have been surprised at getting comments for fics I upload there. I wasn't expecting that! But it is awesome and I'm so happy. I love getting feedback, even for old stories I wrote, what, seven years ago? AWESOME.
This is what I sent to Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, Macmillan, McGraw-Hill, and Pearson Education
Mar. 18th, 2010 12:34 pmzillah975This is what I sent to Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, Macmillan, McGraw-Hill, and Pearson Education, via the Credo Mobile action campaign, Stand up to the Texas Taliban. I take exception to the name they've given it (last I knew, the Texas Board of Education wasn't throwing acid in schoolgirls' faces, just as a for-instance), but whatever, it's still the easiest way to email all those publishers at once and figure it has a prayer of reaching the right email address.
( My letter )
( My letter )
Florida debates gay adoption ban
Mar. 18th, 2010 09:25 am![[syndicated profile]](http://s.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/feed.png){kind=small}
pinknews_feedLawmakers in the US state of Florida debated the ban on gay couples adopting for the first time in 33 years. Amendments were introduced in both the House and the Senate on Tuesday although both were withdrawn before a vote.
Gay participants excluded from some clinical trials
Mar. 18th, 2010 08:47 ampinknews_feedSome clinical research trials are explicitly excluding gays and lesbians, a study has found. Research sponsored by the US National Institutes of Health, the US government and private companies found that 15 per cent of the trials were found to bar gay people.
Gaza Rocket Kills Thai Farm Worker
Mar. 18th, 2010 11:14 amthedebatelink_feedA rocket launched from the Gaza strip has killed a 30 year old Thai farm worker in Southern Israel. The rocket was reportedly launched by a small Islamist off-shoot which views Hamas as being too moderate; the Fatah-linked al-Aqsa Martyr's Brigade also claimed responsibility. Hamas, though not claiming responsibility itself (both of the above groups are its rivals), unsurprisingly blamed Israel for the attack, citing "the recent escalation against our people and our holy places." The latter refers to unfounded allegations that the Israelis are planning to take over the Temple Mount.
Ultimately, the decision to fire rockets lies in the hands of those who light the fuse. They're the ones who have the power to make the rocket fire stop, or perhaps the political entity that controls the region (which would be Hamas), and the buck stops with them. That being said, it remains unclear to me the grounds for believing that the continued blockade of Gaza is likely to have any impact on such terrorist attacks.
Ultimately, the decision to fire rockets lies in the hands of those who light the fuse. They're the ones who have the power to make the rocket fire stop, or perhaps the political entity that controls the region (which would be Hamas), and the buck stops with them. That being said, it remains unclear to me the grounds for believing that the continued blockade of Gaza is likely to have any impact on such terrorist attacks.
In search of a beta
Mar. 18th, 2010 12:14 pmpetraI have finally decided upon the best method to finish a line for kink bingo, and to that end am pursuing Aubrey/Maturin in space, with a twist.
Would anyone be available to read over such a thing in the near future?
Would anyone be available to read over such a thing in the near future?
Eh?
Mar. 18th, 2010 08:43 amglockgalI'm Sorry
I've felt there are two categories of 'I'm sorry' which many people (including me!) have used:
TYPE 1: the true apology, where the apologist is genuinely interested in changing their actions and/or perspectives. They are generally willing to listen, to learn, to progress, to practice further conscientious behaviour.
TYPE 2: the false apology. We've all encountered it, online and offline. It's an apology of defense. And it's generally repetitive, because it doesn't mean anything so the mistakes keep happening. The apologist continues to think and behave in the same way they always do, with no true intention (subconscious or no) of educating themselves or becoming more understanding of another's situation. They say 'I'm sorry', but because it's false, they will return to their old patterns, make the same mistakes, apologize again.
Some people do this their whole lives without learning a thing and not caring. Others become bitter and resentful that they are 'forced' to apologize so many times for the same things. This leads to blaming the harmed person (or group) for being harmed at all. It's your fault that you took offense.
SEMI-TYPE 2: the passive-aggressive apology. It generally goes "I'm sorry that you're upset" or "It wasn't my intent" or "I'm sorry you took offense". This isn't even an apology, which is why I don't categorize it. It places all the blame or harmful action on the other person and willfully makes the semi-apologist look like a naive innocent. Again, it's another situation of 'it's your fault you were hurt by my actions'.
and a newly added third category -
TYPE 3: the insecure apology. I learned this one from my BFF/roomie, who compulsively apologizes for everything whenever she is personally in a bad headspace. (for example: she'd come home, put her bag down and say "Sorry". She'd say "Can we watch ___ tv show? I'm sorry"). I learned from her that this is an apology that stems from insecurity - she is convinced that her every action and thought makes the other person annoyed. That every opinion she has is wrong. She generally does this if she's stressed out or depressed.
Type 3 is one I had to learn to understand, because I wasn't familiar with it. I have unending sympathy and understanding for Type 3 apologies, because I know it stems from stress/insecurity. However, I did explain to my BFF that her constant apologies then put me in the involuntary role of the daily villain. She put me in a position of constantly disapproving authority - authority that I didn't want or have or encourage. I was cornered there, because then I was obliged to 'forgive' her. It was a false forgiveness, because I wasn't upset in the first place. I didn't want to be a villain, I explained this and we compromised for the better. <3 her.
Any other types of apologies that you have encountered, either online or offline?
http://glockgal.dreamwidth.org/365687.ht
I've felt there are two categories of 'I'm sorry' which many people (including me!) have used:
TYPE 1: the true apology, where the apologist is genuinely interested in changing their actions and/or perspectives. They are generally willing to listen, to learn, to progress, to practice further conscientious behaviour.
TYPE 2: the false apology. We've all encountered it, online and offline. It's an apology of defense. And it's generally repetitive, because it doesn't mean anything so the mistakes keep happening. The apologist continues to think and behave in the same way they always do, with no true intention (subconscious or no) of educating themselves or becoming more understanding of another's situation. They say 'I'm sorry', but because it's false, they will return to their old patterns, make the same mistakes, apologize again.
Some people do this their whole lives without learning a thing and not caring. Others become bitter and resentful that they are 'forced' to apologize so many times for the same things. This leads to blaming the harmed person (or group) for being harmed at all. It's your fault that you took offense.
SEMI-TYPE 2: the passive-aggressive apology. It generally goes "I'm sorry that you're upset" or "It wasn't my intent" or "I'm sorry you took offense". This isn't even an apology, which is why I don't categorize it. It places all the blame or harmful action on the other person and willfully makes the semi-apologist look like a naive innocent. Again, it's another situation of 'it's your fault you were hurt by my actions'.
and a newly added third category -
TYPE 3: the insecure apology. I learned this one from my BFF/roomie, who compulsively apologizes for everything whenever she is personally in a bad headspace. (for example: she'd come home, put her bag down and say "Sorry". She'd say "Can we watch ___ tv show? I'm sorry"). I learned from her that this is an apology that stems from insecurity - she is convinced that her every action and thought makes the other person annoyed. That every opinion she has is wrong. She generally does this if she's stressed out or depressed.
Type 3 is one I had to learn to understand, because I wasn't familiar with it. I have unending sympathy and understanding for Type 3 apologies, because I know it stems from stress/insecurity. However, I did explain to my BFF that her constant apologies then put me in the involuntary role of the daily villain. She put me in a position of constantly disapproving authority - authority that I didn't want or have or encourage. I was cornered there, because then I was obliged to 'forgive' her. It was a false forgiveness, because I wasn't upset in the first place. I didn't want to be a villain, I explained this and we compromised for the better. <3 her.
Any other types of apologies that you have encountered, either online or offline?
http://glockgal.dreamwidth.org/365687.ht
McCoy Crisps: Men are Stupid, Shallow, Sexist, Sport-o-Holics
Mar. 18th, 2010 03:44 pmsociological_images_feedAnna sent in another example of a brand marketing itself as for-manly-men-only. Add this one, featuring McCoy Crisps, to some of our other examples: Dockers, Klondike Bar, Alpo, Oberto beef jerky, and Ketel One.
The first thing that the McCoy Crisps Pub site requires is that you tell it what kind of shoes you’re wearing:
If you answer “incorrectly,” the website says: “No, not right. Get inside and learn how to be a real man.”
When you enter the online pub, the first thing you see is a woman that you are supposed to be disgusted by. Immediately a set of beer goggles flies up onto your face (because you wouldn’t want to look at her for more than a split second, apparently):
Then you see this (phew! that was close!):
Alongside playing darts, drinking games, and playing manly trivia, you can get tips on how to be more manly. Such as “How Not to Look Like a Girl Watching TV” and “How to Get Away with Not Ironing”:
And you can also take a manly quiz to find out how manly you are. The quiz nicely tells you exactly how you are allowed to behave and what you are allowed to like. Some examples of questions:
So being a guy means manipulating women with puppies, making fun of your brother-in-law for being a good husband and father, making women cook for you, eschewing personal grooming and healthy eating as much as possible, objectifying women, and enjoying the Pirelli company calender.
Oh, and, if you haven’t seen the Pirelli calendar, you really, really, really don’t want to click here (NSFW; trigger warning).
So there you have it: another marketing campaign that assumes that men are stupid, shallow, sexist, sport-o-holics. I don’t understand why men tolerate it.
(View original at http://contexts.org/socimages)
And now for my next trick…
Mar. 18th, 2010 09:00 amicanhascheezburger_feed
And now for my next trick… I put them back together…
Picture by: jano Caption by: kittysquared via Our LOL Builder
Drama Club Episode 5: "Million Dollar Quartet"
Mar. 18th, 2010 03:03 pmafterelton_feedLogo Drama Club President Will Pulos overcomes the heat, his oily complexion, and a zoom-happy cameraman in order to talk to Robert Britton Lyons, Eddie Clendening and other cast members of the...
Great news: sexism no longer exists!
Mar. 18th, 2010 03:29 pmunfunnybusiness_feedA sockpuppet posts a screed to a Big Bang Theory community on LJ, ![[community profile]](http://s.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png)
sheldon_penny, about how the community is objectifying the poor, oppressed men by creating fanart and squeeing about the hotness of Sheldon and the actor who plays him, Jim Parsons. And how it's hypocritical for members to complain about the objectification of the character Penny in light of their objectification of Sheldon/Jim.
Members reply "Um, no." Some members try to explain why women objectifying men (if such a thing is even happening at all) isn't quite the same thing as men objectifying women but the OP doesn't get it.
Despite the sockpuppetry, the discussion is interesting, and for the most part, thoughtful. Until one of the few male members of the community,awmperry, jumps in and doesn't get it, claiming that sexism no longer exists.
He continues to not get it.
And not get it some more. A few members try to explain that he's derailing the conversation but he continues to not get it.
He even goes so far as to claim that male circumcision is a practice that's as horrifying as female genital mutilation.
But the ladies just don't understand! He has no male privilege in a community that's 99% women! He's being oppressed! And the male privilege checklist doesn't apply to him! He's special!
In the end, he manages to hit almost every point on Derailing for Dummies.
P.S. Thanks to the mousie who first posted this to wank_report.
sheldon_penny, about how the community is objectifying the poor, oppressed men by creating fanart and squeeing about the hotness of Sheldon and the actor who plays him, Jim Parsons. And how it's hypocritical for members to complain about the objectification of the character Penny in light of their objectification of Sheldon/Jim.Members reply "Um, no." Some members try to explain why women objectifying men (if such a thing is even happening at all) isn't quite the same thing as men objectifying women but the OP doesn't get it.
Despite the sockpuppetry, the discussion is interesting, and for the most part, thoughtful. Until one of the few male members of the community,
awmperry, jumps in and doesn't get it, claiming that sexism no longer exists.He continues to not get it.
And not get it some more. A few members try to explain that he's derailing the conversation but he continues to not get it.
He even goes so far as to claim that male circumcision is a practice that's as horrifying as female genital mutilation.
But the ladies just don't understand! He has no male privilege in a community that's 99% women! He's being oppressed! And the male privilege checklist doesn't apply to him! He's special!
In the end, he manages to hit almost every point on Derailing for Dummies.
P.S. Thanks to the mousie who first posted this to wank_report.
My iPod has a mind of her own
Mar. 18th, 2010 08:55 amdragovianknightThis morning on the way to work, I wondered why Dulcea kept playing songs that I'd never heard before. And then I remembered that I'd added some Xena fanmixes last week, and she was happily shuffling through those and ignoring the bajillionty other songs she knows. Which explains why I kept thinking, "Man, this would be an awesome song for a Xena vid!"
I keep thinking about Joxer, and why I don't like him. I mean, it can't be because he's an incompetent ass with an ego the size of a small planet, because that describes Darkwing Duck equally well, and I love Darkwing. And sometimes he manages to do things that make me want to pet him (defending a horse against someone who will wipe the floor with him and he knows it, because that horse matters to his friend, for example). But then he always turns around and makes me want to crack his skull with Gabby's staff, and I'm trying to figure out why I can't be all "LOL comic relief character let's slash him with Ares" like the rest of fandom.
(I also don't really like Salmoneus, but I can appreciate his entertainment value in a way I just...can't...with Joxer. Joxer I really want to erase from canon.)
I need to work on this "not getting enough sleep" thing, because I look like someone punched me in both eyes this morning.
I keep thinking about Joxer, and why I don't like him. I mean, it can't be because he's an incompetent ass with an ego the size of a small planet, because that describes Darkwing Duck equally well, and I love Darkwing. And sometimes he manages to do things that make me want to pet him (defending a horse against someone who will wipe the floor with him and he knows it, because that horse matters to his friend, for example). But then he always turns around and makes me want to crack his skull with Gabby's staff, and I'm trying to figure out why I can't be all "LOL comic relief character let's slash him with Ares" like the rest of fandom.
(I also don't really like Salmoneus, but I can appreciate his entertainment value in a way I just...can't...with Joxer. Joxer I really want to erase from canon.)
I need to work on this "not getting enough sleep" thing, because I look like someone punched me in both eyes this morning.
Meme? Yes, meme
Mar. 18th, 2010 11:01 ambeckyzooleI do believe it's time for another tell-me-all-about-yourself meme! This one is ganked from ona_tangent:( Read more... )
20. What kind of winter coat do you own?
A black leather coat with silver studs, that a friend gave me when she'd lost a lot of weight. I also have a long gray wool coat for conservative occasions. But I love the leather coat best.
ona_tangent:( Read more... )20. What kind of winter coat do you own?
A black leather coat with silver studs, that a friend gave me when she'd lost a lot of weight. I also have a long gray wool coat for conservative occasions. But I love the leather coat best.
Film Weekly peeks inside The Scouting Books for Boys
Mar. 18th, 2010 03:42 pmfilmweekly_feedThis week's podcast meets the newcomers behind British coming-of-age story The Scouting Book for Boys and the director of Sons of Cuba, a hard-hitting documentary following three young boxing hopefuls in Havana